You said, "Let's just be friends." Actually it may be a good idea.
Being friends isn’t the best move with every ex. Sometimes
you need to kick that person out of your life for good. But if your breakup was
amicable and mostly happened because you’re just more compatible platonically,
you may be able to salvage a worthwhile connection.
Putting yourself out there for it is a risk, but may come
with a lot of rewards. If you practice patience, kindness and healthy
boundaries, here’s what’s possibly in it for the both of you:
1. No custody battle for mutual friends
After
a breakup, it’s common to question who gets to keep the friends, which puts a
lot of pressure on your mutual ones. Staying friendly with your ex assures
everybody that they won’t be put in that position. Your social circle is like a
regular circle — there are no sides to choose
1 2. No one’s the villain
So
many breakups devolve into insults, bitterness and resentment, but
internalizing and projecting that negativity can keep you from finding someone
new. By staying friends, you may actually have an easier time being single.
3. You gain a friend who
knows you better than most
Your friends might know you, but not
in the same way they would if they had dated you. Your ex can read you like no
one else, and that’s a rare but important quality to have in a friendship. They
can tell you what you don’t always want to hear (but sometimes need to
hear), because dating basically trained you for that.
4. There’s nothing left
to fight about
You’ve
already had the all fights, and the solution to them was breaking up
5. You both have an endless amount of joke
ammunition
You
can laugh together about each other’s flaws, because you’re no longer in a
position to be rejected based on them. That’s what friends are for — as long as
you both can dish it out and ake it
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